40 Psychology Tips To Navigate Life With EaseBy Jo A
If you’re looking to change your life, improve your relationships, or get ahead at work, you may want to consider some of these psychology tips we have for you. Psychology studies how our minds and things around us affect our behavior and choices; it provides insight into why we do what we do and how we think about things. It’s not just a field that’s limited to scientists; everyone can benefit from learning more about psychology! However, before we proceed, there’s every chance you may have used one or more of these tips at some point. But then there’s no harm reiterating them for emphasis. The tips in this post will help you understand yourself so you can make changes for the better! Let’s get started.
Use a Random Object to Kick-start Conversation
You might think that all interactions start with an opening line like “So how are you?” or “What do you do?” That’s not entirely correct. Sometimes it just takes a random object or observation to start a conversation with someone new.
If you are able to nail this hack, you will realize that things are on their way to becoming more beautiful than either of you could ever imagine! You’ll discover several things in common that will keep you talking for hours.
Feeling Comfortable in a Party
When you head out to a party, dress for comfort and style. If a tuxedo is not your thing, well, that’s ok. Don’t be afraid to wear what’s comfortable for you even if it is jeans and a button-down shirt. They work just as well!
Now that you’re appropriately dressed for the occasion don’t be afraid to mingle. Go up to people and introduce yourself, you’re sure to make a friend or two. Lastly, feel free to ask your socialite friend for assistance if you need it.
Eliminate Stage Fright
The first step is to recognize that you’re feeling stage fright. Once you do that, the next step is to take action and try to eliminate the cause of your anxiety. You have several options at your disposal, but they don’t all work for everyone.
One trick you might not have thought of is counting. Distract yourself from the number of people; instead, count things you can see, like water bottles. It’ll direct your attention to this task, rather than building anxiety over the act of presenting.
Start a Conversation Like a Pro
This one seems obvious, but at the moment, we tend to get tongue-tied and forget how to act naturally with others. We all know to start with a simple “hi,” but how do you keep the conversation natural and not too forced?
Pick up on subtle cues about what the other person is interested in. Is there a design on their bag or jacket? Talk about that! Or perhaps they were staring off at some birds acting goofy or stray cats playing. Use what interests them to start and continue the conversation.
Try a New Haircut
When you feel like your hair is past its prime, consider getting a new haircut! A fresh cut can make you feel more reinvigorated and ready for whatever comes your way. Also, if you’re going to meet someone new, try a new hairstyle!
It’s not just about how it looks — it’s also about how it makes you feel when you walk into a room or you step outside. When you’re feeling confident and happy, your smile beams right out of your face, and everyone notices.
Wear Bright Clothes
Bright clothes can boost your confidence, which will help you feel better about yourself and interact with others better! If someone compliments your outfit, be sure to thank them sincerely and let them know how much it means to you!
Bright colors can also boost your mood and make you feel more confident when conversing with new people. A bright outfit can also help you stand out from the crowd, which will make it easier for others to notice and remember you!
Warm Your Hands Before a Handshake
If you’re going out on a date, or you have an important meeting to attend, it’s key to be warm when they shake hands with you — even if they’re cold. This means keeping your palms dry and warm before the handshake.
This way, your hands don’t feel clammy or sweaty in comparison! If the weather is quite cold, try warming your palms up before shaking hands by rubbing them together for about 15 seconds. It may seem small, but how your hand feels can have a big impact on first impressions.
Smiling is contagious and easy, so why not make it a habit? Smiling can have an impact on your life in so many ways. It’s an easy way to show someone you think they’re cool or funny, but it can also make you feel better.
When you smile, your body releases endorphins — the same chemicals that make you happy when you do something like exercise or eat your favorite chocolate. So next time you’re feeling awkward at an event or social gathering, remember to smile.
Observe the Friendly Ones
If someone seems particularly open to hanging out or joining your group, don’t be afraid to ask! It might not seem like a big deal at first, but with time, it’ll become second nature to you and you’ll make more friends.
On the flip side, if you’re a bit shy and you see someone happily and naturally engaging with new people, make your way over to them. Keep an eye on those who seem friendly and it won’t seem like such hard work to start up conversations on your own.
Don’t Feel Guilty
Don’t feel guilty about your mistakes. Don’t feel like you’re not good enough. No one is perfect at everything, and it’s only natural to make errors and fail every now and then. It’s just part of being human. It’s the way you learn from them that counts.
What you should absolutely avoid is beating yourself up. That won’t make anything better, and will only drag you down and lower your self-esteem. Learn to laugh at your mistakes and take note of how to improve when a similar situation comes up next.
Avoid Eye Contact With People You’re Avoiding
When something is on our minds, it’s hard to look away from that thing. Whether it’s your favorite food at the store, or a person in a crowd, our eyes seem to wander. If spot someone that you want to avoid, don’t look at them.
Eye contact shows interest and can spark conversation. And, even if you manage to avoid interacting with them, if you catch each other’s eyes, that’s a whole separate level of awkwardness. Point your focus elsewhere to save yourself from unwanted interactions.
Respect is a powerful tool. When you show respect to others, they start to see you as a person worthy of the same. And when they hold you in high regard, you’re more likely to reach an understanding and maintain a positive attitude towards one another.
This isn’t just between adults. Extend this same courtesy to kids, too. As they say, kids are sponges and they learn from the world around them. Treat them with respect, and they’ll bring these lessons into adulthood. This is how we make the world a better place!
We all know that one person that has zero volume control. They mean well, but they tend to speak way too loudly, even when asked to tone it down. But they can’t help it, and you shouldn’t berate them for just being themselves.
But if you need them to quiet down a bit, reply in a whisper. Without even realizing it, even the most boisterous person will match your tone. You may even notice yourself doing the same, as humans tend to match their tone to those around them.
Chew Bubble Gum When Anxious
What do you do when you’re feeling down or are wound up with anxiety? Does it help to breathe in some fresh air? Do you feel less stressed when you walk outside and take a deep breath of the earthy, green scent of newly-mown grass?
Maybe it’s time for a bubble gum break. It seems a bit cliche, but taking a break to chew some gum can help calm your nerves and mentally take you out of the stressful situation. It’s not always possible to step outside for fresh air, but it is always possible to carry gum.
Rock, Paper, Scissors
We all know rock, paper, scissors. Although there are many ways to time when you call “go,” the principle remains the same. In theory, using this game to settle disputes gives everyone an equal chance of winning. But that’s not entirely true…
Before you start, distract your opponent with some questions. Don’t make it too obvious or this trick won’t work. Now, continue the conversation and start your game. You’ll notice that, when distracted, they’ll pick the same “move,” making them easier to beat.
Always be polite. No matter how the other person reacts to you, always take the politeness route. This is a big one! We are talking about something that can make or break any relationship. Or, if need something from someone; this can make a huge difference.
Be polite when you ask for a favor. You’re more likely to be well-received and the other person will more likely do what you ask of them. Being assertive and demanding can make people raise their defenses and not want to help you, even if it benefits them.
Take Note of Body Language
One of the biggest downsides of being polite in business and other formal interactions is that it’s hard to tell when to end a conversation. No one wants to be the one to turn away, but you can’t keep up small talk forever.
To get out of a seemingly endless conversation, take note of the other person’s body language. Are their feet pointing towards the door? Have they shifted in a move to leave? Take note and copy what they’re doing. You’ll find the mutual actions easier to disengage from the conversation.
The Perfect First Date Hack
Whether it’s your first or fifth date, be yourself! Yes, it’s cliche, but it works. Don’t let your “good first impression” get in the way of an enjoyable evening. Putting on airs makes even small mistakes seem big and you’ll forget to have fun!
If you’re struggling to be yourself, make your date activity something you both enjoy. It’s hard not to feel at ease when you’re in a familiar environment. Keep it simple. Prepare your favorite meal or watch a date-perfect movie you are both guaranteed to enjoy.
Use Assertive Eye Contact to Get The Truth
Although little white lies are usually harmless, it’s always best to tell the truth. But this can be hard if you’re talking to someone who may be trying to hide their true intentions. Now, we’re not talking about birthday surprises here. Those are totally fine.
If you think someone is lying and you need them to tell the truth, eye contact is the best tool at your disposal. But don’t just look them in the eyes. Be firm and confident in your attitude, and they’ll struggle to lie to you.
Borrow a Pen to Start the Conversation
If you’re looking for a chance to meet new people, but feel like you’re at a loss for how to start the conversation, here’s an easy way to get started: borrow a pen. Sounds so easy right? It is because it’s true.
We’ll admit that this trick really only works in school and office settings. But if you have a journal or marked-up book with you, you’ll always have the perfect excuse to ask to borrow a pen. It’s simple, but it works.
Avoid Intimidating People
If you’ve ever felt meek and unworthy in comparison to others around you, take the time to consider that it might not be you. Intimidating people can, either intentionally or incidentally, make those around them feel uncomfortable being honest or acting normally.
Although it’s easier said than done, try to avoid these people. If it’s in a social situation, disengage and find someone friendly to talk to. If it’s in a work environment, make sure to set up an emotional barrier to protect your self-esteem from intimidating people.
Sarcasm is a great conversational tool, but it’s also the verbal equivalent of a knife in the back. You’ll be much more effective if you communicate your ideas and opinions in a straightforward manner, rather than using sarcasm to poke fun at people or things.
It’s not only less effective, but it can actually hurt your credibility. When you use sarcasm in conversation, you’re telling people that what they say doesn’t matter and what you say does matter. You can still use it between friends, but avoid it at all costs at work.
A Day in Someone Else’s Shoes
Do you struggle to be yourself at social gatherings? Don’t feel bad if you do; some of us aren’t social butterflies. If you have a party coming up but you’re feeling nervous, think of a different name to use for that evening.
It sounds weird, but spending the evening in the shoes of someone else might just be the key to being more confident. This trick works especially well with new crowds you’ll only see for that one event. Don’t switch out your name for a work party.
Your Body Language Matters
Your body language is the way you carry yourself in a room. It is your posture when you sit, the way you stand, and even the way you walk. It shows who you are and what kind of a person you are.
It may take some conscious effort in stressful situations, but you should always be aware of your body language. Subtle hints can tell people whether or not you’re looking to engage in conversation, or how open you are to new ideas.
Another Body Language Hack
Body language hacks are the best way to improve your communication skills. Whether you’re talking to a new colleague, trying to impress your boss, or navigating new social situations, these tips will help you be more effective in your interactions.
While you should always try to maintain eye contact, you should occasionally glance at the other person’s feet, especially if you feel a lull in the conversation. If they have their feet pointed away and/or toward the door, they are likely ready to exit the conversation.
Start a Journal
Journaling is a great way to help you get things off your chest and out of your head. It’s also a great way to get motivated to do something about those things that are weighing on you — even if you don’t know what those things are at first!
No, you don’t need to make a diary with a standard format. Just a small notebook you keep at home or carry in your day bag will do. Jotting things down can help you sort your thoughts, especially if you’re anxious.
Stay positive at all times, no matter the situation. It’s easy to get caught up in negative thoughts, but it’s just as important to stay positive and focused on the things you can control. Yes, it’s easier said than done, but it’s not impossible.
Staying positive is the only way to make sure that your focus stays on what matters most: achieving your goals. Do your best not to let negative thoughts take over your life, they will only make things worse. This one takes practice, but it’s worth the effort.
The Eye Contact Trick
Eye contact is a powerful tool that can be used to improve your confidence, or make people more receptive to your ideas. When you want someone to listen to what you have to say, look them in the eye. If you have the instinct to look away, try this trick…
Focus on their eyes. Or, more specifically, their iris. Try to determine their eye color. This will give you a specific target for your attention, making you less likely to look away. If you feel awkward, try practicing with friends.
Listen to Music and Podcasts
When you’re feeling stressed, it can be hard to find the motivation to get out of bed, cook, go to work, or anything, really. But people have found that listening to music can help them stay focused and energized for the tasks ahead.
So if you’re feeling tired, try listening to a podcast that inspires you! Also, listen to music you love — songs that make you feel good and inspire you. Music has its own language that can speak to your heart, even in tough situations.
Show You’re Interested
Forgive us for another cliche trick, but there’s a reason why some behavioral patterns are in all the movies and TV shows. They just work! So, here’s one from those cheesy romantic comedies: bite your lip to show someone you’re interested in them.
It’s a subtle move, but there are situations when you want to stay under the radar. Well, except for your crush. Small signs like biting your lip can show them that you’re interested in their romantic companionship. If it doesn’t work, you can always use it as a conversation starter.
Take a Break and Go For Outings
Do you know what’s awesome? Going outside! Whether it’s going on a hike or attending a concert, outings are revitalizing. Taking the time to get out of your routine can make a huge difference you might not even realize you need.
Don’t wait until it’s the right time to make plans. Find a way to work it into your schedule for that day, week, or month. If it’s something that requires planning, having something to look forward to can keep up your energy and motivation leading up to the event.
Nod your Head to Show/Gain Agreement
In most cultures, nodding your head indicates agreement. You might find yourself doing this on instinct, if you’re watching or reading something you concur with. This may sound like cheating, but if you want someone to agree with you, nod along when they speak.
Just like whispering, nodding is something humans will do in response to another person’s action. Of course, you shouldn’t use this to trick anyone into agreeing with something they’re against. Don’t be a jerk and use psychology to trick people.
Use the Right Tone
The tone of your voice can make or break a conversation. If you’re in a group setting, and you’re trying to get people on board with an idea that is important to you, it’s important not only to listen but also to be heard. This means being clear, concise, and respectful of others’ time.
If you have a strong opinion on the subject at hand, make sure your tone reflects that opinion so that everyone understands where you stand. If someone challenges what you’re saying, don’t react in anger. Keep calm and be prepared with an answer that is both logical and well-reasoned.
Choose Silence to Avoid Conflict
It’s important to avoid conflict whenever possible. It’s easy to get caught up in the moment, and sometimes it feels like there’s no way around it. At times, it’s better to stay silent than to reply sarcastically or otherwise respond in a way that makes the other person feel bad.
It’s better to avoid conflict than to engage in it, and the best way to avoid conflict is to keep your mouth shut. If you answer back, try to talk about what happened, or make jokes about it, you’ll only make it worse.
Rapport is a special kind of connection that you can have with people. It’s about knowing what makes them tick and how to communicate with them. Whether it’s in a professional setting or just talking with friends, be open and friendly.
But there’s more than just that. Mirror their actions to show you’re interested and engaged. Don’t do so in a way that appears that you’re mocking them. But small gestures here and there to show you’re being attentive can be very impactful.
Tip For Customer Service Workers: Don’t Say “Sorry”
As a customer service worker, you have your own set of responsibilities. On top of everything else, you must be polite, professional, and helpful. But no matter how courteous you are, there will always be demanding customers who are either unreasonable or unsympathetic.
It can be tempting to apologize for things like being late, being unable to answer a question or solve a problem, etc., but instead focus on making things right by getting the customer what they need and deserve. Use passive language rather than direct apologies.
Don’t Be Indecisive
Yes, we know that this one isn’t as easy to implement. We’ve all had times, either alone or with friends, that we just can’t make up our minds. If you find that you’re stuck, narrow down your options. There are a few ways you can do this…
Whether you’re picking an outfit, or a task to do at work, if all options are equally good, then you can’t go wrong if you pick at random. To reduce the stress, make it fun and assign all your options a number value (one through whatever). Then, use a random number generator to pick!
Maintain Good Posture
Maintaining a good posture is one of the most important things you can do to protect your spine and overall health. When you stand upright or sit up straight, it makes it easier for blood to travel through your body.
This means that you get more nutrients and oxygen to all parts of your body. This helps reduce fatigue, lift moods, and ward off aches and pains. Moreover, if you’re slouched, it can show lack of confidence and people might not take you as seriously.
An Easy, Non-Rude Interruption
One thing that seems to be universal are mean people, some intentional and others incidental. It could be at work, at school, or even an exceptionally rowdy family member. If you find yourself stuck with someone who is unaware of their behavior, ask to see their teeth…
Just kidding! Ask them if they have something stuck in their teeth. This will make them immediately stop, and they may even leave the room to check their teeth in the bathroom. Doing this is a gentle way to end unwanted conversations.
If you don’t already exercise regularly, try to build it into your schedule. Even just thirty minutes is better than nothing. There are countless benefits to physical activity! For starters, your mental and physical well-being benefit from an active lifestyle.
If you can’t make it to the gym, try walking to work. If you need to take public transportation, get off a stop early and walk the remaining distance. Or, you can get a yoga mat and look up some YouTube videos or workout apps to get started.